I have the best flist in the world. Most all these links were collected from flisters.
Check out cereta
's post On rape and men (Oh yes, I'm going there)
if you missed it when she posted it in June. (I missed it.) She talks about need for men to be pro-active to stop or prevent rape and to call their buddies on it when they're being sexist assholes/rapists/sexual predators.
Because men raping women is systemic, and cultural, and yes it is the patriarchy and it is misogyny and it is men thinking they are entitled to women's bodies.
She also asks people to leave stories about the times when men have done the right thing and times they have not. And comments go on to why doing the right thing needs to be a standard of living, not something we pass out cookies for. Obviously, this will be triggery for some.
In other things that make my skin crawl: Gym Gunman Was Not Alone: The Making Of A Misogynist Murderer
(Jezebel). For those of you who haven't been following some asshole thought it would be awesome to open fire in a gym and gun down several women. He premeditately posted about it on his blog, along with many misogynist commenters joining in his rants. His post often lamented about his lack of girlfriend, loneliness, and condemned every woman who'd turned him down as silly animals.
In Jezebel's post about it, several male commenters note that they don't understand how to talk to women. Hint: Just like you would any other person. This leads to inlovewithnight
laying it out on why socially awkward men aren't entitled a 'dating women' 101
. And how, gee, men aren't the only ones who are socially awkward.
Stultiloquentia points out the problems with exotic dance and the word 'exotic' as an othering
in her IBARW post.
What the language there is doing is shoving our own slightly "shameful," slightly taboo desires onto somebody else. We civilized people have no sexy dance. Sex gets exoticized, and then before you know it that means the exotic gets sexualized, and then you get things like U.S. senators thinking it's okay to crack jokes about loving being in a room full of "Asian babes" at a journalism conference. Or large chunks of Persian history and culture getting reduced to "Salome Fantasy w/ Throw Pillows and Random Peacock."
Due to the misinformation media bath that is Obama's Health Care Reform. (I completely agree with Jon Stewart's comments about how Obama's addresses have sighs of 'really, who the hell is believing this death panels thing?')
In a look for the truth, liz_marcs
wants to know your real life experiences -- good and bad -- with both the American Health Care system and non-US National Health Care systems. Those from the US comment here
and those not from the US comment here
.( More Health Care fun )
Coffeeandink links up discussions of racism and homophobia from WriterCon and WorldCon
. This is why it's time to *listen* instead of talk. (Warnings: Lots of comments on the linked posts are full of FAIL.)
Don't buy books by sci-fi author John C. Wright, who outraged that LGBT people exist, especially in sci-fi tv, and equates queerness with bestiality, among other lovely comparisons
Or if you don't want to lose your lunch, seize shares of the secrets of queer people
. Dammit, now the cat's out of the bag. Guess we'll have to change the passwords now.
SGU is hitting the FAIL button in all directions: ableism, heterosexism, racism, and misogyny. ( Spoilers for characters and situations. Triggers for rape )
To end on a happier note, check out President Obama awarding the Presidential Medals of Freedom
. Truly inspiring.