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I have the best flist in the world. Most all these links were collected from flisters.

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Check out [livejournal.com profile] cereta's post On rape and men (Oh yes, I'm going there) if you missed it when she posted it in June. (I missed it.) She talks about need for men to be pro-active to stop or prevent rape and to call their buddies on it when they're being sexist assholes/rapists/sexual predators.

Because men raping women is systemic, and cultural, and yes it is the patriarchy and it is misogyny and it is men thinking they are entitled to women's bodies.
She also asks people to leave stories about the times when men have done the right thing and times they have not. And comments go on to why doing the right thing needs to be a standard of living, not something we pass out cookies for. Obviously, this will be triggery for some.

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In other things that make my skin crawl: Gym Gunman Was Not Alone: The Making Of A Misogynist Murderer (Jezebel). For those of you who haven't been following some asshole thought it would be awesome to open fire in a gym and gun down several women. He premeditately posted about it on his blog, along with many misogynist commenters joining in his rants. His post often lamented about his lack of girlfriend, loneliness, and condemned every woman who'd turned him down as silly animals.

In Jezebel's post about it, several male commenters note that they don't understand how to talk to women. Hint: Just like you would any other person. This leads to [livejournal.com profile] inlovewithnight laying it out on why socially awkward men aren't entitled a 'dating women' 101. And how, gee, men aren't the only ones who are socially awkward.

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Stultiloquentia points out the problems with exotic dance and the word 'exotic' as an othering in her IBARW post.

What the language there is doing is shoving our own slightly "shameful," slightly taboo desires onto somebody else. We civilized people have no sexy dance. Sex gets exoticized, and then before you know it that means the exotic gets sexualized, and then you get things like U.S. senators thinking it's okay to crack jokes about loving being in a room full of "Asian babes" at a journalism conference. Or large chunks of Persian history and culture getting reduced to "Salome Fantasy w/ Throw Pillows and Random Peacock."
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Due to the misinformation media bath that is Obama's Health Care Reform. (I completely agree with Jon Stewart's comments about how Obama's addresses have sighs of 'really, who the hell is believing this death panels thing?')

In a look for the truth, [livejournal.com profile] liz_marcs wants to know your real life experiences -- good and bad -- with both the American Health Care system and non-US National Health Care systems. Those from the US comment here and those not from the US comment here.

[livejournal.com profile] maggiesox goes on with why she's turned parties due to the scary health care reform.

In another snarky look, an NPR commentator calls this the Summer of Hate -- "I keep seeing footage of people camping out in front of these Senators' offices, and mentally, I'm getting a picture of Woodstock, just cleaner, and with more clothes."

In more seriousness, the British are seriously annoyed that the US media and fearmongers are pissing on their beloved NHS. Especially as US rag, Investor's Business Daily, writes about how people like Stephen Hawking wouldn't be alive if the US had a NHS and only private care has saved him. Stephen Hawking then responds with a "Oh, no, you didn't. I'm British, you asswipes." Actually, he says something far more classy than I would've:

"I wouldn't be here today if it were not for the NHS. I have received a large amount of high-quality treatment without which I would not have survived." -- Stephen Hawking
Then in the foot-in-the-mouth, John Mackey, CEO of Whole Foods, wants you to know that you don't really need a NHS, all you need to do is eat Whole Foods. Don't you know healthy eating will solve all people's ills? And that illness only comes because you're fat? By his standard, it cures cancer, fixes broken bones, and I should never even get the common cold since I'm within "normal" weight range. Also we should all sign over our paychecks to him because that's how expensive Whole Paycheck is.

(Note: I completely believe in healthy eating as part of one's well being. I'm a foodie who loves to cook. I try to shop local. However, he's being an asshat.)

And in a town hall meeting, Barney Frank asks a Goodwin invoker what planet she lives on and points out how offensive she is.

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Coffeeandink links up discussions of racism and homophobia from WriterCon and WorldCon. This is why it's time to *listen* instead of talk. (Warnings: Lots of comments on the linked posts are full of FAIL.)

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Don't buy books by sci-fi author John C. Wright, who outraged that LGBT people exist, especially in sci-fi tv, and equates queerness with bestiality, among other lovely comparisons.

Or if you don't want to lose your lunch, [livejournal.com profile] seize shares of the secrets of queer people. Dammit, now the cat's out of the bag. Guess we'll have to change the passwords now.

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SGU is hitting the FAIL button in all directions: ableism, heterosexism, racism, and misogyny.

First, we get their casting calls for Eleanor Perry -- really thin, quadriplegic, life not worth anything due to disability, and a virgin. Also, a brilliant scientist. Okay, I can give a little bit because casting calls are notoriously awful.

Then meet Camille Wray, the lesbian, Asian American HR exec who's trapped millions of miles away from very committed partner. (As we'd never let single gay people troll the universe getting laid or anything.)

As normal, the SG writers can't keep away from Earth, so they start communicating across the universe with body swapping Ancient stones. Then we find out that Camille and Eleanor are going to swap bodies, and Eleanor is going to experience life for the first time, including having sex with a man while in Camille's body. Here's more details with delightful fandom comments too.

Let's hit the isms...

Ableism: Quadriplegics can and do have sex. They also have full lives. Seems like being a brilliant scientist would qualify as a life; it certainly did when they were writing Rodney McKay.

Misogyny: Just because you're not in control of your own body, doesn't mean you can't be raped. Even if Camille never knows what happened. See why roofies are illegal.

Heterosexism: Not only do we have rape, but then we have added bonus of Camille being a lesbian and everyone, including Eleanor and the guys, knows this.

Racism: And for an added bonus, there's an Asian woman's body being used as a sex object by a white man.

AfterEllen posts this about SGU's response to their concerns. Ms. Warn may trust them to write a story that deals with these issues, but I've actually watched Stargate before. I know what happened to Teyla, to Weir, to Janet, to Vala, etc., etc.

Over on GateWorld, Darren Sumner responds defending the SGU writers and their past 'deep' issue writing. Yes, he actually cites the thing with Michael as well-written with a real ending.

Cate gives all details of where to send your complaints.

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To end on a happier note, check out President Obama awarding the Presidential Medals of Freedom. Truly inspiring.

on 2009-08-20 06:08 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] zulu.livejournal.com
Thanks for the links. I've been following a few of these, but several were new, and others good to revisit to read more comments.

on 2009-08-21 04:48 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] viciouswishes.livejournal.com
Anytime. *g*

on 2009-08-20 06:11 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] velvetwhip.livejournal.com
[livejournal.com profile] cereta's post was excellent. I caught it when it was first posted and thought it was on target.


Gabrielle

on 2009-08-21 04:49 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] viciouswishes.livejournal.com
Yes, very much so and now that the discussion's furthered many of the comments have added great value.

on 2009-08-20 01:37 pm (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] kurukami.livejournal.com
I just posted a response-comment to Inlovewithnight's journal. Her post makes a lot of sense, but at the same time I feel obliquely honor-bound to defend what often seems like my indefensible gender. I rambled a hell of a lot and probably made little sense, and what I wrote will most likely be taken as "Oh, that's so typical for a man to say, what bullshit", but hell, 'Night hates me anyways so why not just say something instead of swallowing my words like I usually do.

*shrug* I don't think I give a damn anymore.

on 2009-08-21 05:44 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] viciouswishes.livejournal.com
I've been thinking about how to respond to your comment during my work day.

The thing is, I don't want you to apologize to me for your gender. I don't want you to apologize for the behavior of other men. You can't because you didn't do it. I only want an apology for sexist behavior if you do something sexist toward me. Same goes for homophobia. You can't apologize for serial rapists or the Fred Phelps of the world.

Apologizing and saying not all men are like that and you aren't like that is derailing the conversation and making it about you. I *know* not all men are like that; so does every woman on the planet, which is why the posts are venting or calling to attention, not calling for the death of all men.

What I want is for you to first Listen. Part of Listening is giving me a place to vent, to be angry or frustrated. Then I want you to support my gender and my sexual orientation through what you've learned from Listening.

The biggest support you can give are standing up to those displaying 'isms. Either when I'm not around or when it's not safe for me to stand up myself or when I need backup. And I don't mean engaging the Fred Phelps of the world (to paraphrase Barney Frank, they are like engaging with a dinning room table); I mean the small things, telling family member not to use the word "gay" in a demeaning manner or call out a locker room joke as not cool even if only the guys are around.

Let's turn this around. As a white person, I would never dream of apologizing for all the racist hatred white people have done. I can't; no one really can. They can only apologize for their own behavior.

Instead I try to Listen and Support and be Aware. If I get called on my own actions being racist, then I Listen, Acknowledge, Apologize, and try to Learn something in the best case situation.

Again, I am not chasing down neo-nazis with hate scribbled on their t-shirts (unsafe), but I am calling out racist crap in fandom or telling a co-worker not to use slurs against the Romany.

And really, whatever 'Night's feelings are toward you, it was just a good excuse for you to vent.

on 2009-08-20 01:39 pm (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] kurukami.livejournal.com
As for SGU... ick. Well, looks like I'm not missing much by skipping that show. : (

on 2009-08-21 05:44 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] viciouswishes.livejournal.com
Yeah, I'll be skipping it too. I was on the fence; but wow, the fail that goes in all directions.

on 2009-08-20 07:51 pm (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] chicken-cem.livejournal.com
I'm going to try to attend the District 8 Town Meeting on Tuesday. I *really* hope they make us show some ID, because I've got a sneaking suspicion that most of the right-wing crazies are traveling to these meetings from out-of-state just to stir up stupid bullshit trouble. Howard Dean will be speaking as well as Moran.

The SGU thing is very, very, very disturbing.

on 2009-08-21 05:48 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] viciouswishes.livejournal.com
*nods* I hope everything at the Town Hall goes smoothly and they do check IDs. I have to say that I'm jealous you're going to hear Howard Dean as I have a bit of a political crush on him.

Totally. Especially when the writers admit to the problems and say the script is actually going to address it. I want to ask them if they've ever watched the 15 seasons and 2 made-for-TV movies of the other shows they wrote because I have. (Well, not all, but enough.)

on 2009-08-20 08:44 pm (UTC)
tielan: Wonder Woman (SG - JT3)
Posted by [personal profile] tielan
Some really good links here - I'd seen a few, but you've pointed me towards more, so thanks!

on 2009-08-21 06:12 am (UTC)
Posted by [identity profile] viciouswishes.livejournal.com
Always glad to pass on the linkage.

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